Venus and somewhere very very very far from venus

Why can't we ever see eye to eye with them? Why do we rarely seem to make sense to each other?
Here are a few insights to help out for both sides -


For him


1. Whenever she asks how she's looking words like OK, nice and good are simply not enough, always and I repeat always superlatives is what she's looking for.
2. When she starts nagging you at the end of the day even if you don't have a clue what she is worked up about, for god's sake put away the laptop, iPhone and game consoles and any such paraphernalia...she is probably just tired and whats you to acknowledge what a great job she is doing.
3. She rarely wants expensive gifts for birthdays and anniversaries....the fact that you remembered to make it special is what counts. A cup of coffee and your undivided attention could rock her world.
4. Her idea of an holiday is always just taking it slow and spending time together, recapturing the magic....it definitely is not walking around a strange city with a map in hand dragged from one tourist attraction to another.
5. When she has cooked something for you wait for her to comment on it first....she does have taste buds surprisingly and will accept if something is not great. Being the first to comment and especially saying things like "My mother was amazing at making...." is what a dead man walking would do. If a death wish is what you want who am I to stop you....Hahaha don't say I didn't warn you though.


For her


1. When he starts talking animatedly about politics, cars, gadgetry or the like just nod along. He is only talking what he knows best to impress you. Humour him.
2. They do not and never will understand the word shopping and the concept of window shopping is a sin in their bible. They are happy to get it over with in the first shop and within half an hour of starting out. Never take him shopping - you are sparing yourself a lot of heartache.
3. The person who coined the saying "The best way to a man's heart is through his stomach" was a genius in my opinion. Yes and I emphasise this is true in almost all cases, anything you want, cook him a slap-up meal and you will be smiling at the end of it.
4. Don't give him too hard a time about wet towels on the bed, or toilet seats left up, he knows you don't like it. He is only doing it to wind you up. Don't react and you have probably driven home a stronger message.
5.  When he can painfully sit through rom-coms with you, make an effort to sit through football/cricket matches. And discussing about saving money, the economy or investments always earns  a few brownie points.


Although I do have to acknowledge that each person is individualistic and each relationship unique. So not all points may apply but breaking kitchenware, pulling out our hair or for that matter each others is not the answer. After all we are from Venus and they must be definitely from some place very very far from there. Accepting our differences and probably laughing at ourselves for it is the only way out.